Is it normal to feel that my divorce lawyer doesn't like me?

When you are going through a divorce, it is completely normal to wonder whether your lawyer likes you. You are scared, vulnerable, and relying on someone else to help protect your future, your finances, and sometimes your relationship with your children.

Even though you are the client, you may find yourself trying to be agreeable, easy, or the “good client.” Underneath that is a very human fear: if my lawyer does not like me, will they still fight for me?

But your lawyer’s job is not to like you. Their job is to advocate for you, protect your interests, and help you think strategically during an incredibly emotional time.

That said, you still deserve to feel heard, respected, and taken seriously. If you feel dismissed, judged, or neglected, it is okay to name that directly. A strong attorney-client relationship does not require constant reassurance, but it does require trust, clear communication, and the sense that your lawyer understands what matters most to you.

The best thing you can do is be clear about what you need from your lawyer and use their time wisely. Bring them the facts, the questions, and the decisions that need their expertise, and save the emotional spirals for your therapist, journal, coach, or trusted support system.

But do not shame yourself for wanting to be believed, liked, or reassured. You are not needy or “too much.” You are human, and you are navigating one of the hardest chapters of your life.